Solo Quarantine Warriors

Wake up, stretch, set the kettle on, brush your teeth, pour the coffee into a cup, switch on the laptop, brace yourself for a frantic work day ahead, eat two meals or less, watch episodes after episodes tirelessly, switch off and sleep (if your mind and body allows to). Repeat.

This routine might be different for you, if you aren’t a solo quarantine warrior. If you don’t live by yourself. If you don’t end your day without ‘theoretically’ speaking a word out loud. Except into your phones and cameras for voice and video calls.

Well, this is the life of every single person living alone when the globe is fighting a pandemic, which we haven’t seen since the 1918 Spanish Flu that wiped out a population and changed the course of the 20th Century. A section from the History of Pandemics wonderfully written for BBC Future, states how epidemics were the beginning of mass killings on earth. And how wars are merely nothing. 

While I thought I was among a small number of people who lived alone in this difficult time, I decided to look up if it was true, well the reality shocked me. And ended into my ‘write’ section on WordPress. Because why not tell you what we feel, apparently I am not alone in this. 

When you look outside, everything is a mess. The sick people, the fighting health workers, the struggling labourers, the risking delivery agents, the small business owners, the lost-job ones and of course the bigger elephant in the room, a cureless pandemic that’s eating the human race inch by inch.

And then here is us, a nice house to live in, a job that keeps us busy, knowing to cook three decent meals everyday, an internet connection, electricity and water that doesn’t go off, a set of hobbies to keep us engaged, probably a pet to pamper, a balcony with a view to have a warm cup of hot chocolate. So what’s the trouble? Shouldn’t we be grateful than ever in this crisis? 

Here’s a thing, we are unbelievingly grateful for a life that we worked hard for the decent enough life we live in and the perks that come with it. But here’s another thing, that makes it even harder for us to talk about even the ‘silliest’ thing we could be going through because then it would come across as a ‘complain’ and not a ‘concern.’ 

Even the few of us who lived a less social life, initially felt this would be a cake walk. Alas, this is now making them feel invisible. Because back then, they could walk into their office and wave each other good mornings, pick their favorite coffee from the local coffee shop and chat with the barista who talked about his favorite flavor and how the kids loved it. Then, walk back into the house after a tiring day at work, enjoy the piece of silence and take long hot showers. 

Alone, by The New York Times, puts together the wonderful stories of people around the globe who are fighting another battle inside them by living alone, among those who ‘grapple with isolation.’ 

We don’t even know what to say to people who tell us, “I wish I was you, can’t imagine what that freedom would taste like.” Oh yes, true that, you can’t imagine. It’s difficult to imagine. We both can agree on that at least. 

The amount of freedom is vast and unknown, true. But that freedom included walking into cinema halls with cheese and/or caramel popcorn, waiting outside the H&M store for their annual sale, grabbing that hot cup of coffee and almost spilling it while rushing through your office doors, heading out for a late night snack from the neighbourhood cafe. And the list may go on and on. So, there on the freedom-indicator, we all are on the same red point. 

It’s always easy to read or suggest to ‘take care’ of your mental health. That brain inside your head with eighty six billion nerve cells? That ain’t listening to us, so you are out of the question. We need to constantly keep ourselves engaged in the fear of falling apart. We all picked a few extra hobbies to keep ourselves sane, unlike others in this quarantine-mode. Also, not to forget, setting up our house every few days is among the top in that list. Rearranging furniture, new fixtures, lighting, changing sheets and so on.

What is helping a few of us though, is a routine. I know you might have read that everywhere on the internet by now, but this is very much beneficent for a solo-stayer. A routine can help your mind and body to function the right way without extra efforts and struggles.

A few years back I discovered Thrive Global, and they touch the right nerve of the youth in this era. They write and discuss a variety of topics that have been not only extremely relatable but also very helpful. Two recent ones I would highly recommend from their section of COVID-19 are Loneliness and Routine. And don’t worry they aren’t depressing and won’t make you even more sad. They explain and cut down on what emotions one may go through and the best trial options to take up and tackle them. 

While I hope the world would heal sooner and prepare us to adjust to the new normalcy that’s awaiting us, I also pray you all be a lending ear to your family or friends who are by themselves through this tough time and vice versa. A kind word, a long virtual hug and a ‘take care’ text can go a long way. Remember, you could unknowingly be a beam of light in someone’s darkest room where on one could hear them, if they screamed. 

Parasite of The Past

There is a parasite inside your head, it sits there, peacefully, not running around. Not yelling at you, not destroying your brain into a hundred pieces. Then where is the problem? The problem is it’s the parasite of your past. It’s the parasite that formed because you couldn’t stop thinking about that one event, incident, person or even a place that haunts you. 

You let the parasite be there, thinking it’s going to last there forever and there is nothing you can do about it. But what it does to you is, it starts to eat you, slowly and steadily, without you knowing. And before you know it, it’s too late. It has already sucked the soul out of you. And baam! You can’t breathe anymore, you’re surviving your life not living it, as a vegetative existence. 

Susan Nolen-Hoeksema, the chair of the department of psychology at Yale University writes in Kaizen Habits, overthinking is when “They don’t sleep well because ruminating and worrying keep them awake at night. Ruminators repetitively go over events, asking big questions: Why did that happen? What does it mean? But they will never find any answers”

What she has quoted seems like she had interviewed me! Many could relate to this worst phase of your life, not just me. So what exactly is overthinking and what could it do to you? 

According to Success Consciousness, when you analyze, comment and repeat the same thoughts over and again, instead of acting, you are overthinking. This habit prevents you from taking action. It consumes your energy, disables your ability to make decisions, and puts you on a loop of thinking and thinking over and again.

The fact that you aren’t able to cross the dark phase you had in your life, is less terrifying than thinking how long would it take for you to lead a normal life like the one you see everyone having around you. 

You tend to wake up with the same thought, go to sleep with the same thought and many times even dream about the same! Dreams in fact are a very powerful source of medium in which your subconsciousness tries to convey important behavioural changes you go through. 

What can you do about it? 

There are hundreds of thousands of solutions to find online, while many ways work and many would not, these solutions are very subjective and would change from person to person. You need to figure out your own way of coping with the trouble. That will happen, gradually. Give it time, you do not need to rush. Go on a trial and error spree. Here’s what works for me, 

‘Notice’ when you’re thinking too much 

This has been hands down the most effective for me, which I discovered from a piece on Forbes. It’s easy to dwell into your past very often and fall into that dark hole, and once you do you are unable to pull yourself back out of it. As soon as you realize you are thinking overboard, snap yourself. Cut your thought abruptly, and quickly try to sense three things around you. Anything as simple as the smell from a scented candle or biting into something with a strong taste, like a hot pepper. This helps you revive your senses. 

Do not pop any pills

When your brain cannot handle too much pressure, it releases itself in the form of physical uneasiness. I know a lot of people personally who lose weight, who gain weight, lose appetite or turn into insomniacs. That forces your body clock to go for a toss. In my case, it drained me in the form of headaches. I visited eye doctors, clinics, drank water and blamed it on my work culture too. But it took me really long to figure out that I should stop carrying Propynenazone Caffeine tablets with me everyday to work. It helped me in instant relief for a few hours and gave me 8 good hours of sleep only to wake up everyday to a pounding headache. There was a man inside my head who used a large wooden axe to be hammered into my brains. 

The only way you could tackle this is to focus on one thing. If you are working at the moment, give extra focus to it. If you are cooking, concentrate on cutting your vegetables. If you’re showering give your head a good massage in a hot shower. 

Stay occupied when the sun sets 

Brain Wellness Spa says that evenings have the most dawning effect on people undergoing depression. This easily leads to exhaustion, loneliness and dissatisfaction with our life, thinking it isn’t going anywhere. The reason that the study shows so, is largely because of lack of distractions in evenings. I realized this extremely late and was struggling without understanding why this pattern followed. 

One of the effective ways I stick to, is to stay occupied. Needn’t always be going out for a walk or hanging out with your friends and family, nevertheless that would work wonders. It could also be doing something you really love, cooking, gym classes or something as simple as talking to someone you adore over the phone. One of my ways would be playing loud music. I love music when it’s always around me, hence keeping it closer in times of distress. 

Count your blessings, literally! 

I used to read these lines and think how annoyingly cliché they are! What do you mean by counting your blessings, that does not even make sense! Yet what I realized much later, at least how I used to take these lines seriously were, to count three things everyday that you are extremely grateful for. Just three. Not more, not less. At the beginning of this process I noticed that I wasn’t even happy for many of them, because it came to me as and when life happened, without an extra thought of craving for something, which many could not have, even if they yearned to. 

Write it down or type to your phone notes, I own a white board, which is now filled and overflowing in a corner bar I made. Whenever you start with your brain sirening “Why did this happen to me” “What should I do now” “No one is there for me”, you open up these sheets and read it, I read it aloud from my white board, it snaps me back out of the overthought misery I’m drowning in. 

If these could help even one person, my goal is achieved. Because I know that Parasite of The Past that’s growing inside you, it has been growing inside me and together we can tackle the biggest wars inside us. Only you can save yourself, and I know you can. 

You have many people to prove wrong, you have many to prove right. They have been vouching for you. Go through your pain, but get out of it like a phoenix bird, you have no clue what’s waiting for you at the end of this road. You’ll be surprised, you’ll be shocked. You’ll thank your stars. 

Let’s put that venomous energy into an infectious one of productivity, growth and self love. 

This Festive Season, If You’re Away From Home, You’re Not Alone.

While I’m sitting at my desk, hardly breathing, drowning in work with the noise of employees shouting out the breaking news for the day, market moves and screens above me flashing, BBC and CNN channels. There is little-to-no time to think about anything else, apart from making deadlines meet. With such chaos around me, two colleagues who pass by walking to the nearest ‘Relax Room’ whisper to each other, “So when is your flight home?” to which the other one replies, “Oh, it’s tomorrow at midnight, I’ll reach just in time to light the diyas home. Gosh, I wish my mom makes Motichoor Ka Laddoo!”

Diyas are oil lamps that are primarily lit around the house during the festival of Diwali. The festive is synonym to the Hindu version of a New Year, celebrated over five days or less according to various religious beliefs you come from. Independent wrote a beautiful, clear and easy-to-understand piece about the significance of Diwali.

As I said, the surprising part is even in the loudest of the noise I hear could hear them speak, crystal clear. I wonder why. Well I guess I know now, let me tell you. 

I, or we as siblings, moved out of home a few years back, like any millennial, to work, study and pursue my dreams (though it sounds very cliche’). And the fact that not many festivities were celebrated in our house together after we all grew old wasn’t something we felt bad about as the years passed.  

But here’s the thing, remember when we were in our early teenage? We hated our parents, we hated our siblings, we wanted ‘freedom’, wanted to live away from home, loved to hang out with friends all the time, and made an annoying face when that phone call from home said “Come home! It’s past midnight!” We wanted to run away from restrictions, forever. 

This festive season, if you’re away from home, you’re not alone. 

Looking ahead, here we are, waiting to go back home, have our favorite recipe from our mom’s kitchen, listen to our dad’s endless career advice, and our sibling’s pestering till you wait to yell back at them. Living approximately 1,600 miles away from my home, I look around seeing the festive preparations happen bigger and bigger, and talk one extra hour over my phone. Thank god for technology, they indeed keep families together. 

This is to every single one of you, who are struggling to make ends meet, thriving in your profession, working double jobs and many shifts to get to the top of the ladder, your home has your back. So don’t hesitate in the fear of falling off that ladder. Go and conquer. Because at the end of the day while you open the door to your house, tired and worn out, your phone will ring. The person on the other end will tell you to switch to the video option, “Here eat this Mothichoor Ka Laddoo, your favorite, open your mouth!”

And when the day finally everyone falls into the plan of fixing a convenient time and date for a short vacation and book tickets while cribbing about important meeting schedules, freelance work, extra hours of shift replacing another employee etc. Click! ‘Your tickets are booked’ says the screen in front of you. You wouldn’t realize until you will walk to the Arrivals, see each other at the airport and freeze. Freeze, thanking yourself for hitting the ‘Book’ button, counting on the things you’re grateful for, and times you thought you had no one while struggling in some city of some country.

So put your heaviness back, because this festive season, if you’re away from home, you’re not alone.

“Greta Thunberg is a Mentally-ill Swedish Girl”- Fox News Guest

What a coincidence, while I’m making notes on my phone jotting down important points that could be placed tightly into my article here, something falls down right near my feet. I look up to see where a mini can of coke landed from. I find my colleague wave a hand at me miming, “Sorry! I missed it.” looking at the trash can beside my rotating chair.

Oh no, my point wasn’t ill manners, it was plastic bottles. And wait, before you could get into conclusions, I can easily pick out fifteen plastic bags around my house, which I acquired from many shopping spots including my local grocery store down the lane. So, I’m not ranting about me being a eco-friendly woman who uses only paper bags and jute lunch bag to carry her organic fruits and vegetables. That’s not true at all.

Though, I may be talking about the guest who came on a popular national television news channel and said “a Mentally ill-Swedish girl” was over reacting to climate change and is exploited by her parents. But before I get into this, I may want you to see how a 15 year old Greta Thunberg, a Swedish environmental activist’s, powerful speech went viral in hours after speaking at the climate action summit in New York at the headquarters of the United Nations, in case you haven’t yet. Which is next to impossible. 

Question yourself everyday – Are you counting your days to death, without you realizing it?

The national television later apologized after hate started pouring in towards them. So why has this teen received so much hate online? Well, The Atlantic did an article elaborating on why Greta is making adults uncomfortable. Hmm, now let’s figure out what exactly is the problem. a) Is it that a teenager, who is angry about a global issue, is getting a lot of attention? b) Is it that we want to desperately ignore that earth is melting, but she isn’t letting us to do that in peace? c) Why do grown men hate her? While asking all these questions, I wonder if we are forgetting it’s not her that we should focus on but what she tried to convey. 

Be it from a 15 year old or a 50 year old, facts unfortunately remain facts. Mocking, bullying and attacking will not be of any good. I really don’t think. 

Repeating that climate change is real is not something I should do, which is as real as stating the fact that earth is round. Instead, here is how you could do your bit, apart from reading hundreds of articles on climate change and feeling pity or scared (including this). 

  • Walk, cycle or use public transport. A study in Stockholm showed that 60 lives could be saved each year thanks to reduced air pollution, if everyone had less than a 30-minute cycle ride to work, instead of taking the car.
  • Consume less meat. I hear your sigh while reading this! Calm down, let me complete. Lower your meat consumption to two days a week and take appropriate portion of food, avoid wastage. 
  • Wash clothes in cold or warm water, use energy and heat wisely. 
  • Start climate conversations, you may feel this might not be of any good, but trust me talking to each other can change governments.

What did it take for us human beings to wake up from our comfortable dreams after a 15 year old came up and told us the world is ending? What are doing about that garbage dump next to your apartment as you walk past it everyday making a face of disgust? Blaming each other isn’t helping, this time we are all in one team.

As I make the final touches to my article here, Ms. Thunberg is in the news for all the reasons black and white. But I’m going to only focus on one kind of news. This school-going girl is leading the biggest climate march which will take place in 150 countries, focused largely on youth protesters, yet people from all generations are rushing in hoping to bring a change to the mindset of people on climate change.

While its never too late to begin, we are already much much behind. A small action could take us a long way, reduce your screen brightness, remember save energy in the smallest way? Let this be a beginning.

Good luck to us (we need that it seems), the end is near.

“We are living on this planet as if we had another one to go to.” – Terri Swearingen

The Way Forward: India fights

On a Sunday morning, about four months back, I was sitting across the breakfast table drinking my mandatory morning black coffee along with my first cousin who was gulping down her favorite chocolate milk. While discussing her career status, as she has just started off her collegiate life, she interrupted me to put across a very important issue. Reservations.

“I want you to write about this someday. For me, it’s terrible, I went through this,” she tells me. I could sense a tension in her voice.

As she completed her high school education, she had gone on a vigorous search for a few prominent undergrad colleges in the city. The battle to get into the best university had began. The students across Mumbai city were set on a hustle mode. Entrance exams, deadlines, day and night preparations, sample question papers, merit lists and so on.

Endless efforts and sleepless nights had finally paid off; she had cracked entrance score percentage on the merit list to one of the best known universities for engineering. She was beaming hearing the news, until an email changed everything.

“Hi ma’am, we are writing this to inform you that we unfortunately have to deny your admission to our institution. Regret the inconvenience caused.” After a detailed investigation, we discovered the seat was given to a student with a lower percentage who had applied on a SC/ST quota (reservation).

I will officially complete my media education in 2019, and I wonder what made me not write about this earlier. Probably because I was never a victim. I have read many of articles. Advantages, disadvantages, government policies, implications, effects, promises, arguments etc. yet nothing struck a chord in my head. Anti Reservation Protest of 1990 and Employees Protest Against Reservation in Promotions are few among them. Maybe I never knew the graveness of the problem until someone close to me faced it. Is that selfishness? I do not know.

Let me throw some light on what are Reservations are in India. According to Youth Article Library, Reservations in Indian law is a form of affirmative action whereby a percentage of seats are reserved in the public sector units, union and state civil services, government departments and in all public and private educational institutions, for the socially and educationally not progressive  communities and the Scheduled Castes and Tribes who are inadequately represented in these services and institutions. This is also the case even in the Parliament of India.

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The Rationale behind Reservation

India is a prey to an undefinable caste system and this problem forcefully made the government introduce the provision of reservations. The Constitution of India was categorized in two groups called Scheduled Caste(SC) and Scheduled Tribe (SC). The idea was to provide equal opportunities in every job and industry, including education and government offices, as these communities were not considered among many institutions because of casteism that has existed for decades.

Understanding the Need

The motives of reservations have been taken advantage of immensely. The different religion and caste based quotas (reservations) have created tensions among the people who belong to the general category (who do not belong to the backward class). Their jobs have been taken away.

A child who spent the entire two months researching and studying,  without sleep, to get placed in one of the most prominent universities doesn’t get through even if she qualifies according to the merit category.

I strongly believe every person should attain what they deserve, if they have given their hundred percent, irrespective of gender, caste or religion. Many Indians have gone on the streets to protest demanding for reservations. India Times did an article on Five major communities demanding reservations  Many of them see no hope.

Havells Fans, a ceiling fan company in India did an advertisement mocking the reservation system. The advertisement was taken down soon, as it hurt the sentiments of few people. It was later withdrawn.

As we ended the conversation over the breakfast table, I realized one thing: to understand the law is not easy. My cousin, had no clue about government policies or how they may have affected a 17 year old. She felt education demanded to be every hard working person’s right and not a biased decision.

I had no answer to that. All I could do was is to explain to her that renowned educational institutions and high-profile schools are not the only places to earn education from. It is from the life around you. Schools are just a platform, if you believe in yourself, dedicate to your goals and put your mind and heart into it, trust me, victory is yours,  no matter what. As I said that, I saw a meek smile on her face. My job was to restore confidence in that young mind.

While this debate is never- ending in the developing nation of India, it is important to look at whether this caste-based reservation system has actually uprooted the underprivileged? Are the minorities in the country aware about such reservation policies? How many people, who stay away, in the outskirts, know that they can demand their rights? Is the implementation of reservation policy revised often? My cousin was just one in many students who missed out on this opportunity, do others too voice about this? Is the system working the way it was meant to? Is every ‘reserved class’ children benefitting from this?

All these questions, and many more yet to be answered.

Let us help this rich country of 1.3 billion to flourish, by building educational foundations for every person, irrespective of age, class, gender and undoubtedly caste.

“I wish to play” – 14 Year Old Mom

“I love to play soccer, the championship begin last year. But I could not play, I was pregnant” says Daniela. She was 14 when she gave birth to her son.

Daniela lives in Ecuador, a country situated in South America’s west coast. This is not the story of Daniela alone. This is the story of thousands of girls across Latin America, where child marriage and teenage pregnancy are increasing on a high rate and forcing them to drop out of school.

Daniela was not among the one who decided to stop school after being a mother. It was exhausting, tiring and challenging for but she was brave enough to face those. She managed to raised her son and balanced her homework at the same time. It was hard but not impossible. “I have to be something … for my son” she says proudly.

Credits: Christian Rodriguez/Prime Collective
Poor data and access to prophylactic strategies regularly prompt undesirable pregnancies, particularly among adolescent young ladies and youthful women.The maternal death rate in Ecuador is 110 death/100,000 live births (starting at 2010). The HIV/AIDS rate is 0.6% for grown-ups (matured 15-49), starting at 2012 estimates.

Abortion in Ecuador is illicit, with just couple of exemptions for unique conditions. As per a Human Rights Watch report, lawful fetus removal is generally denied to ladies, even on account of rape.In late years, being gone up against with the most astounding high school pregnancy rate in South America, Ecuador has chosen to change its strategy in regards to contraception, including crisis contraception.

As per the state evaluation in Ecuador, 1 adolescent in 5, from 15 to 19 years of age and 1 young lady in 20 between 12 and 14 years of age, is pregnant. 78% of young moms drop out of school when pregnant.

Malala Yousafzai, the fierce fighter empowering girls immensely, kick started her #GirlPowerTrip in April. The trip’s motive is to empower, help and fight for the future of girls like Daniela.

While there are many more girls like Daniela, Malala believes it is important for more people to step forward and do their bit. She thinks her voice is not enough. What the girls in Latin America require are more than just financial help in medical sector. They are in need of awareness, moral strength and education.

It is equally important to ensure that girls get the opportunity to reach their full potential. While Malala has started off on the journey, she was inspired by Christian Rodriguez’s TEEN MOM Kick-starter campaign, which works for the cause of adolescence pregnancy in Latin America.

“So far, I have documented the everyday lives of teen mothers in Uruguay, Brazil, Mexico, Colombia, Ecuador, Venezuela, Nicaragua and Argentina. I have found many individual stories that necessitate greater visibility in order to reduce these high rates of adolescent pregnancy.” says the documentary photographer from Uruguay who explores themes related of gender and identity by working with different communities.

Here, read, understand and learn what we can do as students or professionals in bringing a change to the mindsets of people through education and awareness.

Learn about #GirlPowerTrip here: 


Spread a word and do your bit here:

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Vegetarianism – Not a Curse

I have been writing for three years now, and spent a good half of my life abroad. Yet I still wonder why I never wrote about the topic that I strongly felt for. I have been blamed, accused and made fun of this since long. What took me so long to pen down my feelings into words? I do not know. So here, today I decide to pour it all out.

Vegetarianism. Take notes, people. Grab a popcorn and be ready to debate.

It has been 22 years, okay lets just cut it down into 13 years, since I have been on this life long debate of proving why I am a vegetarian. Trust me, it is much harder than fighting for your constitutional rights in India. How I wish one person out of the bazillion people who gave me reasons on why I should switch gave me a valid justification. All of them were pointless and pathetic. Sorry, but yes.

Oh, so you want me take you through some of them? Here, let me take this beautiful opportunity to publicly pen down two prominent arguments I face and also unveil why I felt they made no sense.

We kill animals and you kill plants, both are living things (in fact you kill the food for animals) How does that make any difference?

Sigh. Heavy sighs. I have been living in the Middle East for sometime now and during Eid, I often wake up to the noise of the trucks pulling across the streets in which I hear the cries of caged goats who are trying to drop off the back door, their eyes shows despair and their feet keep trembling. Hours later, I hear one last cry. Bloodshed. My day goes terrible. That night we go out for dinner and my colleague gets to the table a hot bowl of Mutton Biryani (an Indian dish made with highly seasoned rice, spices and goat meat). He said that it smelled exceptionally good and the hot flavored spices pampered his taste buds. I found it extremely hard to forget the sight of the eyes of despair and their cries were still ringing in my ears.

I highly respect religious beliefs across the globe. I understand the value of traditions though I try not to question them always. But violence, slaughter and bloodshed of animals? I am not sure how they sleep well that night.

Technically speaking, plants are living things too, but in that case, everything around us is ‘living’. From the perspective of quantum physics, there is nothing in our three dimensional world that are not ‘living’. Be it stones, water or your computer screens. Vibrating at various rates of speed, energy exists in everything that is growing expanding and self propagating. Like vegetables, algae, bacteria or fruits.

So what if animals are hurt, plants are hurt too. Why just care about animals?

To all who say this, A, what happened to your education? Don’t worry, everyday is an opportunity to learn something new. Today is my chance to teach you. B, let me explain why plants aren’t hurt like animals. Plants are not sentient beings. They do not have an emotional inclination to avoid bodily harm and does not have a nervous system, thus they do not process the sensation of pain. Mother nature’s creation of plants ensured they do not engage in a fight or respond to threats as I mentioned earlier why they do not inherit humane feelings or emotions.

Hence, I never came across the fact of bell peppers jumping off my cutting board and running towards my door which is clearly not the case of 50 billion farm animals in a slaughter house.

And rightly said by Bobby Rock Blog, “Now, after all of this plants-are-living-things stuff, if you’re still on a mission to save as many plants as possible from the ravages of the dinner table and feel that eating dead animals is somehow serving that end, remember: we are currently feeding about 80-plus% of many of the crops we grow in the world to farm animals.  So by eating animal products, you are actually causing the “death” of even more plants (to say nothing of animals), since we feed a disproportionate amount of plant foods to animals, relative to what they yield to humans in the form of food.”

I strongly believe in opinions and respect it with all my heart. My job was not to turn the meat-eating portion of people to vegetarianism or make them realize they are committing a sin. But my motive was to eliminate some of the dreaded flaws in the concept of vegetarianism. While I have been respecting the choices of the meat eating group of people and is mature enough to understand that everyone has the right and freedom to choose a way of lifestyle, I equally yearn for the same respect towards my choices.

But no. 2017, Educational Rights, Global Exposure, immense Growth of Media Industry. Nothing helped the minds of these people grow. I pity them.

I could write 37 pages if I list all the arguments I come across everyday. I choose to stop here. If you read till here, thank you for the patience to go through what I feel. Means a lot.

Also, write to me at if you have any reasons to counter my thinking, I will be glad to put up the best ones here.

None of us are right or wrong, we just have different opinions.


Forgotten ‘Deep’ Conversations

What would make you feel better? Talking to your friend about your state of mind before an important interview or about the weather on the hills?

While thinking about this, I wondered if I was the only one who felt the first would make me feel much happier and satisfied and believed this was absolutely subjective until I did a detailed research. I was taken aback by the number of research papers and analysis that was done on the very same issue by some of the prominent Universities across the globe.

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Matthias Mehl, a psychologist at the University of Arizona who published a study on the subject wrote that people who spend most of their time in deep meaningful conversations tend to be 80% more happier than those who engage in small talks.

“By engaging in meaningful conversations, we manage to impose meaning on an otherwise pretty chaotic world,” says Dr. Mehl. “And inter-personally, as you find this meaning, you bond with your interactive partner, and we know that interpersonal connection and integration is a core fundamental foundation of happiness.”

Blaming Social Media behind the decrease in conversations between people on a high scale, a study says “Social media has created a whole new set of platforms on which we are expected to interact with people, at all hours.” This in return leads to being confined to gadgets to get in touch with their dear ones across the globe but forgetting the one sitting over the table with them.

Social platforms have focused on being socially active ‘virtually’. 90% of the people on our Facebook feed are getting married, got promoted to the HR post, went on a  holiday with their best friends to Miami, which make the other people on their friend list wonder “Look at me, cuddling up in my blanket alone, eating burnt popcorn and watching Game of Thrones”. We tend to let people know we are having fun rather than having fun, and a desire to share these with people whom we hardly know than hanging out with our close ones.

Social media creates the bubble of ‘happy successful people’ which may not be healthy for our mental being. We often forget that we are social animals, if given a chance between going out on a Sunday brunch with your close friends and watching a an episode of Friends, many may prefer to go on a grocery shopping to grab our favorite snack to munch on while watching Friends.

While our world is now losing out on the importance of socializing outside social media, they are also losing out on important, meaningful and productive conversations with each other. When was the last time you had a conversation about something you were passionate about? Maybe like a civic project, a recent unusual journey, a newsworthy aspect of your profession, a family member, your dream job, the person you would sacrifice for etc.

Next time, try grabbing a coffee and sitting over a table with someone you care about and ‘talk’ your heart out. Trust me, you and your soul will feel blissful!

The Life of A Shy Extrovert

Her favourite spot in the Coffee House was reserved that day. She had some writing to do and meet deadlines. Looking for a cozy new place she spotted a corner in the well candle-lit Coffee House. The aroma of brewing coffee with hot creamy milk and crushed coffee beans filled the air. Who said only smoking up could get you high?

After an hour of tedious writing, she was drained. Mentally and socially. She wanted people around her, to share her feelings with. To talk about her love for coffee and cats. To talk about her family, career and relationships. How terribly she missed socialising for an hour.

She is extremely good at building conversations with strangers and made sure they are comfortable in her company, but preferred only to talk over a coffee with her close friends. Like minded ones.

She loves parties! She would dance like no one is watching, with everyone. From the group of her long lost friends (equal to unknown) to her favourite set of guy friends. But she would never want to be the star of the party. She would not go around starting a conversation with every person in the name of socialising. She would still stick to having a small filling meal for dinner with her close friends.

She is a Shy Extrovert.

Roz Bellamy, a Melbourne based writer and teacher, wrote a piece for The Vocal which she titled ‘The Shy Extrovert and Social Media Introvert’. On attending a workshop for a memoir-writing overseas, she analysed how she suffered from depression and anxiety and linked it to Seasonal Affective Disorder.

Shy Extrovert, is a modern term that was coined in the world of internet. It does not hold a dictionary definition.

These are people who get exhausted spending time by themselves after a point. They need social engagement to stay energised. Quality time with people they are comfortable with. This include only a handpicked number of friends and family.

They are totally into making new friends and learning their stories, keen listeners and avid supporters. They welcome good conversations and humour. But after brunch and good food with 10 of their close friends, they now want to hit the solo button hard. They may come up with valid excuses to leave the party soon. Why are these people so complicated? So weird?

There would be a lot of instances where ‘Shy Extroverts’ are mistaken to be introverts. They stay quite and silent in the crowd of unknown but when some of them sit across the table to have a conversation, they are are the most talkative people ever. No, they are not double faced, its in their ‘DNA’.

Ms. Bellamy writes, “Maybe I am a shy extrovert. One thing that is wonderful about being an introvert, or a shy extrovert, or a caring extrovert, is that you tend to be aware of other people’s feelings. Maybe it is time for us, as a society, to move beyond the binary, and into a more complex understanding of ourselves and our fellow human beings.”












The Hidden Face of World’s Greatest Dictator – Adolf Hitler

The man behind the death of more than 70 million, Adolf Hitler lead an extreme secretive personal life. Known to be the greatest dictator in the history, he ruled over Germany leading the Nazi Party and initiated the World War II.

The German Dictator’s sexuality was told to be complex and he refused to let the world know about it. Hitler’s personal life was hard to be studied by historians. In the book Hitler’s Secret: The Double Life of a Dictator by a German historian Lothar Machtan, Adolf Hitler had ordered many among the high ranking Nazi officials to be sentenced to death after he felt the news about him being homosexual will be revealed.

Source: | Adolf Hitler with Rudolf Hess, who were having a secret affair and gave up after the Nazi leader found it an embarrassment

One prominent incident in the history was when Ernst Röhm, the leader of Hitler’s Storm Troopers, tried to blackmail Hitler by revealing his sexuality. Röhm, who was also gay, was murdered by Hitler.

The fact that Adolf Hitler was supposedly a gay, was used by him cleverly during the First World War. He would persuade police officers and would influence many young men for his benefits, for political reasons and otherwise.

In Hitler’s early life and teenage, he had a string of exclusive male companions who was ‘close’ to him and often visited his place. August Kubizek, Reinhold Hanisch, and Rudolf Hausler were some among the many. He apparently shared accommodation with these men in Viennese or Munich backstreets and in “homes for the destitute”.

In a popular debate, Machtan explains that much of his activities and decisions while in power was not due to political influences but to eliminate his original identity and keep his personal secret life at bay.

He was also involved with his half niece Geli Raubal, who shot herself to death with his gun and committed suicide after knowing the relationship of long term lover Eva Braun. The book argues that these were ways to hide his homosexuality to the public and as a result he also ordered to burn down homosexuals in the gas chambers.

Adolf Hitler believed that revealing his sexual identity would shatter his manly image and would bring down his prominence as a dictator. Hitler’s interpreter, Eugen Dollmann wrote that there was an instance were he overheard Otto von Lossow, a Reichswehr general in Munich post the World War I and discovered a police file containing statements by young boys in Munich. Those boys, according to Lossow, said that Hitler had paid them to spend the night with him.

The end number of blackmails had taken a toll on his political life and the 37 year old attempted to go ‘straight’ and failed miserably. Eight women, with whom he had a sexual relationship attempted suicide and six succeeded.

Source: | Hitler with Eva Braun

A frustrated Eva Braun, his long time lover committed suicide 40 hours after their marriage, understanding the confused Hitler’s double personalities.

Lother Machtan has not being able to prove and give concrete evidences of Hitler’s sexuality and its influence in the political spheres of his dictatorship.